“I am here. I am with you.
The way that you forgive is by letting go of any need that you have ever had to be right or to be better. When you take on the role of the one who has been victimized in some way, you are taking on the perspective that you are superior. If you have been wronged in your estimation, then surely you must be the one who is in the right.
This allows you to feel that you are better than your victimizer, the one who is playing the role of villain in your life. When you release the need to be better or righter than anyone else, you no longer need to create villains. You no longer need to play out that polarity of right and wrong. And you can see the other as being equal to you and as being co-creator with you in the event or the circumstance that you feel needs forgiveness.
When you have let go of this need to be superior to any other, you will find that then you draw in different people to play with. And when you no longer need to feel superior to anyone else, then you will also no longer need to feel inferior. Certainly if you are making the judgment that you are morally superior to your victimizers, then you are also judging yourself to be less than others who are doing more good or less harm than you are.
Forgiveness is complete surrender. And in complete surrender there is release. Release always serves you because what you are clinging to is usually something that you are using to feel a certain way. Even the release of your fears is something that you can see as a choice, a choice that creates a neutrality to all experience that you have had or that you could have And this gives you the freedom to create one of those neutral experiences that you desire.
I am Ophelia, and I love you.”