“It is I, Quan Yin.
Pleasing others does not need to mean that you are sacrificing your own happiness or your own comfort. When you seek to please another, you often do so because you want something from the other. Now you may just want approval, friendship, or love, but still you are attempting to engage in an exchange of energy.
When you do this at the expense of what your heart truly desires, you are giving in the hopes of receiving something. That type of giving is conditional, and it does not serve either party. When you simply are who you are, you give effortlessly, without conditions, and with no need for reciprocation. You give yourself. You give your energy. You allow another to appreciate you as you are.
Someone who witnesses you experiencing joy is being offered the gift of that vibration. Therefore, even when you are just following your own bliss with no attempt whatsoever to please another, you are being of service. You are the gift that you have to offer. You are being of service by merely existing as you are.
When you do for another, check in on your motives. Be sure you understand why it is that you do what you do and what it is you want in return. Even if your acts of service are done to give you a sense that you are a good person, they are conditional.
And therefore I recommend that you allow yourself to exist without motives, without seeking reciprocation, and without needing the approval of any other. Do what you do as an expression of who you are and allow all others to benefit from that expression.
I am Quan Yin, and I hold you in my heart.”