“It is I, Quan Yin.
Apart from your desire to maintain a healthy relationship with another, you have many, many reasons for why you continue to find yourselves coupling up. There is of course the need for procreation. There is also an innate desire to be seen, to be heard, and to be loved by another.
Coupling up with another does not mean that you are forgoing your independence or your relationship with yourself. It does not preclude you from making your relationship with yourself the top priority.
But you often find yourselves getting lost in your romantic relationships. You often find yourselves giving in and letting go of aspects of who you are for the purpose of maintaining a peaceful and harmonious relationship. There is no need for you to do those things, however. There is a much greater need on your world for individuals to be who they are than there is for individuals to satisfy the desires of others.
Any time that you feel yourself sacrificing who you are to satisfy the other in your romantic relationship, you are not actually doing them a favor. You are in fact stunting their growth and delaying your own as well.
It is much more powerful, and there is a great deal more potential when each individual in a romantic relationship is willing to be themselves fully, even if that results in conflict and disagreements. It is not selfish to be who you really are, and you are not showing a lack of love or respect for your romantic partner if you decide to be true to yourself.
You can do so and still hold compassion for what your significant other is going through as a result. You can reassure your romantic partner that he or she has the permission to do the same, and you can love each other in spite of your differences. That is the type of relationship you really want. That is a relationship that allows for unconditional love to be experienced.
I am Quan Yin, and I hold you in my heart.”