By treating yourselves the way you want others to treat you, you are sending that message out to all who are a match to treating you in that way. It behooves all of you to first decide how you want to be treated by others, and then to focus on how you can bring that kind of energy to your self-talk, to your self-care, and to the way that you look at yourself.
It is high time that all of you stop expecting others to fill in the gaps, to be for you what you refuse to be for yourself. This is how you master your relationships. You master your relationships by first making that relationship with yourself the most important one, by seeing yourself as a being who is worthy of receiving love, affection, respect, and everything else that you desire from a partner.
If you ask too much of yourself in any situation, you will likely see that reflection from a partner or even a friend. You will find that there is no end to what others will ask of you. And the more you give yourself a break and loosen up on all of your goals and things that you want to accomplish in a day, the more you will find that those around you are also cutting you slack.
If you want to be adored, then adore yourself. If you want to be held in high esteem, then hold yourself in high esteem. If you want to be treated with respect, then respect yourself enough to give yourself what you need. Be playful about this. Be a friend to yourself first. And show yourself just how much love you have to give to any other who you might partner up with.
We are The Founders. We are the keepers of the flame.”